New relationships with people we’re interested in, excites us all, but most of the time we jump in clinging to our emotions and throw common sense out the window. Later on, when things don’t quite work out, we ask ourselves, “How could I have been that blind not to see that coming?”, but by then, it’s too late.
Lots of the simple mistakes we make when rushing into a new exciting relationship can be avoided if we’d simply slowed down and not let our hearts run away with our heads strapped to it.
Here are 4 tips for starting new relationships off on the right foot.
Keep Expectations Realistic
Your expectations should always be kept at a reasonable level. Don’t expect too much too soon. You are just really getting to know this person; their likes, dislikes, passion, attitude etc, so take your time. No one can be everything we might want him/her to be, and sometimes people that mean well, disappoint us.
There is no rule of life that says “All, or nothing.” We should seek to accept people as they are without trying to change them to fit our expectations or ideas.
Flexibility is one of the things that really make a relationship work.
Most of us try to keep or mold people just the way we want them to be, but we often end up with what we don’t want instead.
Enter all new relationships with an open mind simply because everyone is totally different, and you probably won’t be able to create the same environment you had in your previous relationship, in this one. Let go of all past ideas and plans from any previous relationships, even if they worked, because you new man/woman may not take to them as well as your ex.
Remember, this is a different person; be flexible and explore the relationship for what it is or can be.
As simple as this sounds, many people starting new relationships, forget to do it.
Even though you may wish to impress him/her, try not to stray to far from who you really are. You’ll end up with him/her coming to expect you to act and do certain things, and when you revert back to your real self, your new partner will be confused and assume you’re changing.
The problem begins when we trick the other person into being with us by pretending to be the person they want to be with. Then, when we become comfortable, we change back to who we really are. As it turns out, they really don’t care to be with the real us, and the problem gets worse. All this can be avoided by simply being you. Let them like you for who you are, or move on.
Be Honest About Your Feelings
We all like being around people who accept us for who we are and who we can be comfortable around. No relationship can truly work unless both persons have freedom to be themselves. Being honest about your feelings and views on different things from the start, can save lots of headaches later on.
If he/she is into something you’re not into, be honest and let them know how you feel up front. She might want to go somewhere you’re not comfortable going, tell her how you feel and ask if she would be interested in taking a girlfriend along and enjoying the night. This would set the tone for the relationship and cause her to not expect things you’d rather not do.
If he/she can’t accept you for the way you are, your likes, dislikes, dress style etc, then you both have a choice to go your separate ways. Doing so at this earlier time, when there aren’t any really deep emotional ties yet, would make break-up much easier, than later on.
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