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Writing Your Wedding Vows Can Be Easy with These Tips
By Cassie Galasetti

Write the Vows in Your Own Words

This may seem obvious, but when writing your vows don’t use words that you don’t normally use. Avoid cliches and what you *think* you should say. Use your favorite phrases and even inside jokes. This will help make your vows seem genuine and memorable.

Make Your Fiancé Laugh

Maybe you’re not a comedian but try to make him/her laugh! Remember that your vows don’t have to be serious the entire time. Make your fiancé laugh by retelling a funny moment you both shared. Maybe something from your first date, a vacation or just a inside joke that will make you both laugh.

Talk About the Past & The Future

Your vows are a great time to talk about the beginnings of your relationship. Where did you meet? Funny first date stories? It is also a time to talk about the excitement of the future. What are your plans for the future? Moving into a new home, upcoming trips or even future babies! This is also an opportunity to talk about what’s amazing in your relationship and maybe things you want to work on.

Say Things You Haven’t Said Before

Life doesn’t often give you opportunities to say what we think and feel about our loved ones, so don’t let this chance pass you by! Sometimes in life we just go through the motions and forget to tell the people we love how they make us feel and how special they are. Jot down a list of 4 or 5 things that you haven’t said before or maybe not as often as you should.

Write the Vows For Your Fiancé Only

It’s good to keep in mind that your vows are for your fiancé and your fiancé only. Don’t worry about what your wedding guests will think or feel – they’re not the ones getting married! Depending on the couple, sometimes it’s a great idea to turn off the mics during your vows. This special moment is for you two, so it can be a good idea to make the moment just for the two of you.

Imagine You Are Writing a Letter or Card for your Fiancé

It’s hard to forget that your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life, but try to move that aside for a moment. Imagine that you are writing a letter or a card to your fiancé. Jotting down your thoughts will help you form your ideas in a meaningful and concise way.


They’re called wedding vows for a reason! So making promises to your fiancé is probably the most important part. Some examples: Do you promise to say “I love you” every night before you go to bed? Do you promise to always support your fiancé in everything that they do (for the most part 🙂 ?

Don’t Make Your Vows Too Long

Yes, your vows are incredibly important, but don’t drag it on! Narrow down your most important points and say those. As a rule of thumb, it’s probably best to keep your vows to two minutes max. Sometimes going any longer than that can lead to repetition.

If you’re still having trouble, google some traditional vows and go from there. Take those vows and turn them into your own. Don’t forget, practice makes perfect. Recite your vows out loud to yourself or in front of your friends. Get comfortable!